The Adoption Rollercoaster and the Mighty Hand of God

You’ll have to read the previous few updates (at least the last one from earlier this morning) to fully appreciate this one.  We received some amazing news this morning that might not be so amazing if it weren’t for the news we’d received throughout the last week.  Actually, it would be amazing either way because of the consistent inconsistency of this journey.  I want to share the story because the details are noteworthy.  I’ve summarized the bare facts at the bottom of the post for those who won’t want to read the whole account.

Three families (including the Tatlock’s) had court hearings on Friday with the same judge who presided over our case.  What happened in the courtroom was strikingly providential and cannot be explained apart from the mighty hand of God.

Mark Tatlock was the first parent to be seen.  The judge started with the regular proceedings, and our lawyer (Betty) began going through the details of the case.  The judge stopped her and asked how long the father had known the children.  Betty told him that the father was present if the judge wanted to ask him directly.  The judge declined.  It is very rare for the judge to speak to an adopting parent.  But a few minutes later he said that he did want to hear from the father.  He asked Mark how long he’d known the children, why he wanted to adopt, and how he’d come to Uganda.  I can’t think of a better person I’d want answering those questions than Mark Tatlock.  It was no mistake that the judge asked Mark and not someone else.

Mark answered all of the judge’s questions, explaining how he had come to Uganda to teach at a pastor’s conference and how he had met Danyne (co-founder of Amani) and gotten acquainted with the orphanage.  At the end of the dialogue the judge smiled broadly and said that he was very pleased with Mark’s answers.  He expressed confidence that this certainly was not a case of child-trafficking, an issue that weighs heavily on the minds of Ugandan officials and has received international attention in the past week.

The lawyer then continued reading the details of the case.  When she got to the part about the children coming to the United States, she was very specific about the wording that the U.S. embassy wanted to see on the rulings.  This is vital because the U.S. embassy recently denied wordings based on the omission of a single word.  The judge was very careful to make sure that he knew exactly what was being required; he even reiterated his understanding of what Betty was saying, and she told him he was correct.

At the end of the hearing, our lawyer boldly asked if they could get a written ruling by the following Monday (it was already confirmed that the ruling would be positive).  This boldness was especially surprising in light of her customary tendencies and her recent hesitancy to follow the specific instructions of the orphanage (which led to the denial of our ruling).  The judge laughed and said, “Betty, you know how busy we are!”  She pressed him and asked about Tuesday or Wednesday.  Finally he smiled and said that he would write the Tatlock’s ruling on Friday — a one-week turnaround!

After Mark left the room, the other two families came in one after the other.  The judge asked Betty if these two cases were the same as the first.  Betty answered yes.  The judge then asked them the same questions he had asked Mark, giving them the opportunity to share their hearts and explain their intentions (again, very rare).  He also gave them positive rulings and said that he would write the rulings on Friday along with the Tatlock’s.

The judge saw Mark for forty-five minutes.   The other two cases took ten minutes each.  A friend named Erin Littleton also appeared, seeking custody of two children that her and her husband fell in love with while volunteering at Amani last year.  The Littleton’s are being required to provide some extra notarized documents for the court, but this is less surprising because their adoption circumstances are different than ours.

During these hearings, the judge also mentioned that he trusted Amani (the orphanage), Danyne (the orphanage director and co-founder), and Betty (our lawyer).  This is wonderful news because it indicates the potential for a good relationship with the Jinja court which could lead to a streamlined process for the rest of the families (at least streamlined by African standards, which any family should embrace after observing Judah’s process).

After all three cases had been heard, Betty reapproached the judge.  She needed to inform him that the three rulings that he had given on June 15 (including ours) were misworded and needed to be rewritten (even though it was her omission, not his).  She said that one word needed to be added to the rulings in order for them to be accepted by the U.S. embassy.  The judge laughed and said, “That’s it?”  He took the misworded rulings, crumpled them up and threw them away, and immediately signed and sealed the newly-typed rulings that Betty handed to him.  The orphanage has already contacted the U.S. embassy and has confirmed that these rulings will be accepted.  In fact, the embassy said that as of today, they would’ve accepted the old rulings (apparently some of the conversations with embassy personnel over the past seventy-two hours may have had an effect).

The only difficult news is that there is a brand new law in Uganda (courtesy of child-traffickers) that calls for adopting parents to be present to pick up their children’s passports.  This means that one of us has to fly to Uganda again since the passport agency lost our original application for Judah’s passport and therefore it wasn’t completed and picked up before this new law went into effect.  Cindi and I both love Africa and we certainly don’t mind being there, but tickets this time of year with such short notice are in the $2,500-3,000 range.  This is why we had planned for Judah to return home with another adopting family (which would have been legally acceptable a week or two ago).  Now we will be paying for Cindi to get on the exact same flights as our friends who were going to bring Judah back for us.  This ate at me for the first few hours this morning as we tried to find out if there were any way to avoid having to fly again, but the Lord has since calmed my heart with thoughts of what His providence must have in store.  He is our Father, and He owns the cattle on a thousand hills.  So I will send my wife to go get my son and we will entrust ourselves to our Father who paid with the price of His Son’s life to bring us into His family.  I will pay money to go get my son; God gave His Son to go win His enemies.  I put my hand on my mouth.

Cindi has reserved a flight for this Tuesday, July 3 to fly to Uganda, pick up Judah’s passport in person, apply for his visa (24-hour turnaround), and bring him home.  But she will only get on the plane this Tuesday if the passport agency says that Judah’s passport is already in process.  She will come back on July 13 or 16 if everything goes smoothly.  You can pray for Cindi’s health, for the timely completion of Judah’s passport and visa, and for grace to walk by the Spirit in the midst of uncertainties and decisions.

This week has been a rollercoaster.  But a rollercoaster is different than an earthquake, because the twists and turns of the roller coaster still stand upon solid ground.  I am way past thinking that this adoption is locked up and certain, no matter how good the news is.  But the more the rollercoaster twists and turns and dips and dives, the more sure I become that we are indeed on solid ground.

SUMMARY

  • The judge rewrote our ruling and it has been accepted by the U.S. embassy!
  • A brand new law says that an adopting parent must be present to pick up the child’s passport, which means that one of us has to go to Uganda again.
  • Cindi has reserved a flight for Tuesday, July 3.  She will only leave if Judah’s passport is already in process (hopefully we’ll find out Monday).
  • We are praying that the passport will be ready for pick-up by Thursday, July 5.
  • Once the passport is in hand, we can apply for Judah’s visa (24-hour turnaround).
  • Once passport and visa are in hand, Cindi can bring Judah home (hopefully mid-July).

(There’s actually a whole lot on my mind besides the adoption, but we know that at least some people check here for adoption updates and I don’t want to leave anyone hanging.  I hope to write a lot more about a lot of other things in the very near future.)


10 thoughts on “The Adoption Rollercoaster and the Mighty Hand of God

  1. Wonderful update, Gunner!! I am so glad that I checked your site today, July 3!! I will surely be praying for Cindi, you, and Judah. By the way, I am keeping some good friends updated on your journey. They have a ministry called The Shepherd’s Crook and they are carefully watching to see how this new process is Uganda is going. Their ministry is to help special needs orphans find loving homes.
    Blessings
    Ramona

  2. Praise the LORD I have good internet access today! I will specifically be praying about Cindi’s flight (assuming she IS flying tomorrow) and getting Judah…

  3. Found your website through a friend. We are adopting two children from Uganda and our court date is being set for September 3. We have been following your journey and are excited to see you get to bring Judah home very soon. This will be our 6th adoption.
    Blessings, Melissa Carter

  4. Gunner, this is great news. It has been such a blessing and encouragement to see you and Cindi go through this process, with godly motivations and reactions. It testifies to your character, and that character testifies to a life-transforming gospel. May God continue to bless your example to all of us.

    I look forward to meeting Judah.

    Your dear brother,
    Bryan

  5. Hey Gunner & Cindi,
    I am in Papua New Guinea right now and this is the first time I’ve had internet access in 7 weeks. Reading the adoption updates and more about how the Lord is at work in the midst of us all is SO encouraging as I am here in a completely different context. Thank you for being faithful to updating everyone and to His leading. The Lord is using your family as a great encouragement to the missionaries here in PNG as well. Know that we are praying as the process continues.
    Blessings, Katey

  6. Hi Cindy, I am arriving at Entebbe Airport on Thurs. July 5th and then going to Amani to Volunteer. Any chance we could be on the same flight? I am flying British Airways from Chicago to London to Entebbe. Either way I will be seeing you (and Judah!) at Amani!

  7. Ah yes, the international adoption roller coaster–I remember it well! But, YOU get to be “pioneers” in this region!

    God’s wisdom once again shows itself as He has chosen AND equipped YOU and CINDY to experience and testify of His sovereignty, mercy, and abundant grace!

    We continue to pray for you as you trust in and wait on Him!

  8. Hey Gunner & Cindi, We have been and will continue to pray for this whole process. We are so encouraged by your attitude throughout this process and it reminds us to trust in God’s sovereignty daily as you have been an example to us. Praise God – and thanks for the comprehensive updates.

  9. Gunner, I will be praying. What time is Cindi’s flight on the 3rd so I can be praying specifically (if you don’t mind me asking?) I figure the more specifically we can approach the Lord on this one, the better. Praying for the Gundersen family! Keep trusting in the One who has PROVEN himself faithful to ALL generations.

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